Allow me to preface this post by saying that I am by no means racist. Racism however seems to have a place even here in my family. I won't say where the racism exists within my family but it's there. I don't believe in racism. In fact, I hate it. I despise it. I am not even sure how to say this, so be patient and understanding with me. It's not clear what races are frowned down upon but it is clear that those of African descent are not smiled upon at all. I will not subject any boyfriend or friend to their actions or their words. My problem is do I strive to date a guy who might be perfect for me and walk away from those relatives who are racist or do I find someone who is compatible with my family. Discussion about this subject with family has actually led to threats of violence to me and potential boyfriends. Despite their attitudes, I love my family. This is just something that has been bugging me. On that violence issue, he might have been joking I'm not sure.