I want to start this blog entry by stating that I don't have any kids. I do however have 13 nieces and nephews. I have 4 nieces, 7 nephews, 1 great nephew, and one more great nephew due at the end of this month. Sometimes, I struggle with the idea of me and someone having a kid in our lives. I'll go in more detail on that subject a little bit later. I am writing this up as I am watching my great nephew. We are downstairs watching his favorite show, Thomas the Tank engine. It's one of the many dvds they have out. After today, I am not sure that I want kids at all.
I am about ready to scream. Maybe, I am tired but right now I have no patience. Something you need if you're going to have kids. In the last hour it's been nothing but "I want..." and "Why...?". Right now, I can't take him asking the repeated questions and me answering with repeated answers. At school, we would say he has me in a power play. For as much as I love kids, I can't take their behaviors all the time.
After reading this, I'm sure you're wondering how in the heck, I got started working with works and how I managed to keep my job if I don't have patience. I've been over my job before in other posts and you can read more about it elsewhere in the blog. The kids that I work with are special and it takes a special person to work with them. Each one comes with their own set of challenges and problems. Each one of them has a quality that makes the job wonderful. If it wasn't for those bright moments, the job would be really hard to do. It isn't always smooth sailing. Occasionally, I find myself needing or wanting to scream. You also have to realize that I've been doing this for eight years. I wouldn't be there if I wasn't doing something right. A large part of why I think they keep me around is how I work with the kids and how I interact with the kids. When I'm with the kids at lunch, I make sure that they eat and then I get the unique chance to get to know the kids. Find out what sort of stuff they like, we talk. Sometimes it might be about a show they like, other times it's about a video game they love to play. I love that opportunity. Knowing the kids and knowing what they like and don't like makes my job a whole lot easier. Now, that doesn't always work for each and every kid, sometimes there are clashes of personalities and that is okay too. After all, they are each individuals. I haven't really discussed where I stand on the subject of wanting kids.
Where do I stand on the subject of kids? I want kids or at least don't mind being around kids. I use to dream of having a kid. In fact one time I did. Really quick here is a recap. A dark room, me in the center of the room, door opens, kid enters, and he comes up to me. Tells me that he's coming soon! It's been almost 10 years since that little boy came in a dream. I thought once upon a time that it was an omen of good things to come. It wasn't though. At any rate, with my current financial situation and my home life, it wouldn't be fair to bring a kid into this craziness. I have no interest in raising a kid by myself either. If a kid is going to be in my life, I want someone else by my side to offer support to both me and the kid. I wouldn't mind trying foster parenting or adoption. I know, I know it's rough! My one solid fear about it is really my parents. I'm afraid because that because I would want the other person in my life to be guy, that they would take that out on the kid. I'm basically trying to say that the kid would largely get ignored. I totally want to be fair to the kid that means providing a home that offers support, love, teaching opportunities, while still allowing the kid to be a kid. I don't want them to have to wonder why his grandparents won't come to his birthday parties. Above all of that, I want to be able to provide for their needs. So with that said, what do I say to the haters?
I think you need to get over yourselves. First off, you yell and scream that a kid needs a mom and a dad. Okay, so what about all the kids who have birth defects or other issues, why don't they have a mom and a dad? OKAY, stop everything time for a slight disclaimer:
( I know there moms and dads and dads and dads who are doing the right and accepting kids into the homes who may not what others are looking for in a kid. Thanks!! )
You know what in a perfect world; we wouldn't need to have this discussion. I don't want to hear you quoting the bible about how a kid should be raised by mom and dad. A gay couple is just as able to raise a healthy child as any straight couple and isn't it about love, nurturing, and being able to care for their needs. I don't want to hear that they'll be abused. How many kids have been killed, neglected, or abused at their hands of their heterosexual parents? We all know that the minute a child that in the home of a gay couple is mistreated in any way that it will make national news. Hmmm...things have been a little quiet on that issue. Won't say that it won't ever happen and hopefully it doesn't. I don't want to hear about the kids turning out gay. While we don't exactly what leads to a person being gay, I doubt that having gay parents is going to automatically pre-determine their child to being gay. (Did that make any sense?) In other words, no I don't think it will happen. I mean, there is a chance any child will be gay. It's a matter of numbers and genetics. I just want to thank those parents gay, straight, or whatever who have decided to have kids and are raising them without hurting them. I hope those who can will adopt will consider adopting a child who has some difficulties in their lives. I'm not coming down on anyone who is raising their kid the right way. Don't you haters even twist what I just said! Bye All!
Question, if you were going to adopt a child which child would you adopt?
A.The perfectly healthy baby
B.The teen who has been bounced around from home to home.
C.The kid who was born with drugs in their system
D.The kid is HIV +
E.It doesn't matter who I adopt
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