Shadow Void

Scammed or Almost Scammed

It seems that dating apps and dating sites are the hangouts of people seeking our hard-earned money.  I am pretty sure they seek out someone who seems desperate.   Once they find someone, then they begin the process of buttering them up.  Once the guy is buttered up then they throw the line out there.   Yes, the line, it might be something like “I’m in such and such a country and had my passport stolen along with all my money” or “I need help with my business.”.  If it doesn’t work then they try to butter you up again or they try to lay on a bit of guilt.  I think that I’ve talked about this before and it sucks.  One thing it was done sadly is made so that I don’t trust people like I use too.  If a guy messages me and he says that he is from the U.S. but the way he types is off from the way an American would talk, then I start to tear apart his story.  It was brought back up today by someone that I’m pretty sure was in the process of hooking me.  If every word out your mouth is “Handsome” during the conversation, to me it just seems fake.  If someone that should be on the pages of a magazine, then yeah, I have reason to doubt your intentions, and I might just question you.  Has anyone else been taken a hit from a scammer like this?

Heteros Don’t Get Aids???

Believe it or not there are people out there who really believe that straight people don't get AIDS that it's a total myth. Yeah okay, tell me another another one Mr. Prager and Mr. Dobson. You need to get a clue. AIDS/HIV doesn't decide to just not affect straight people. It's equal opportunitist killing machine. Sorry to burst your freaking bubble but viruses can't tell the difference between heterosexuals, bisexuals, or homosexuals or any other part of the LGBT rainbow. Get a clue guys, get a clue.

Bothersome Points: Body Size

This is what has been bugging me lately in fact it's been on my a lot lately. Never realized how insecure I am about my own body. I'm short, not a midget, not a dwarf, just short. I'm 5.5 feet tall and skinny. Imagine, you are on a date with me and my hair is dyed hiding all the gray. Apart from my beard and mustache. One of my favorite things to do lately is to walk along the beach. If it's cool out that means a sweater to protect my ears. I prefer if possible to hold the hands of the person that I am out walking the beach. It never occurred to me that someone could find that insulting. Not because I am gay, but they might be under the impression that I'm not an adult, which could mean my date could mistaken be accused of more than just my date. I don't want that to happen so as much as it pains me to be getting older and have gray hairs it bothers me a little bit. I want to look for them and that could mean dying my hair. If it bothers someone that I'm short, well it should be on them. Which is why I'm glad my sweetheart doesn't want me to dye my hair. He's held my hands in public, and even sat with me on the beach while people went by us. I don't know if anyone said anything or not as they passed because I was too interested in what we were doing which was just talking. Get your mind out of the gutter people.

Another problematic part of being my size is clothes shopping. I have to be clothes that fit me. This means buying clothes that are on the edge between adult sizes and kid sizes. It's a very hard balance to come up with something that looks good and not childish. Shoes, underwear, pants, shirts, and socks all have to come from a size that doesn't quite fit my 45 year old body.

Even my voice is bothersome. I have to feel the need to warn people before they call for the first time that I don't sound like a 45 year old guy. All I can is people need to know that I maybe small but I'm a still guy and still pretty awesome despite everything.

Merry Christmas!

I just want to wish all my readers a merry Christmas and a safe, happy, and wonderful New Year.

Police

I thought, I would do a post about the interactions that I've had with police since reaching adulthood. I have not had a ton of experiences with police officers so, this may be a short post. The first one that comes to mind is when I thought I had found a pot plant. It was growing near a major road in my town. Looking back, that was stupid of me. It ended up not being weed. I'm sure the officer was laughing his head off about it later. Another experience that I had with police deals with a girl that use to live near me. She decided to try and befriend me, I think. Keep in my mind, I was in my twenties at this time and she was still in high school. With her first phone call, I have to admit that I thought she was a friend from college. Halfway through the phone call, I realized it was her and hung up. The calls continued for quite some time until I had enough. I called the phone company to report a harassment call and then called the police, but because I didn't have an answering machine, I didn't have proof of her calls. The other interaction came when I was getting hired by my current employer. I had to get fingerprinted for my background check. The officer that did it also did a quick check of my criminal history, which was spotless. So yeah, that is my post about my experiences with the police.

Youtube Video of the Week

 

Top Youtube Videos For 2013

These videos are my top videos for 2013. They aren't in any particular order so let me know what you think. I went through my history and picked videos that really stood out to me over the year. Sorry I didn't start at January but still, these are pretty cool. Here to hoping that this comes out okay.

All-American Boy – Steve Grand - http://youtu.be/pjiyjYCwNyY

Who Am I To Stand In Your Way – Chestersee - http://youtu.be/8yxfyztjXUs

All I Want For Christmas Is You – Brendan Velasquez (Cover) http://youtu.be/m1pcFRPZJl4

Little Drummer Boy – Pentatonix - http://youtu.be/qJ_MGWio-vc

Coming Out LIVE To My Mom – Ryan Dubs - http://youtu.be/S5CkCaAbXNk

The Baby Food Challenge – Andrew Christian - http://youtu.be/KMPJKtsDhIc

Young Love – Eli Lieb - http://youtu.be/0jPba9WJCzE

F*ck U Betta (Cover Video ) – Mister Chase - http://youtu.be/h9tXwi-74YM

I Will Always Love You – Josh R's 2^nd Place - http://youtu.be/quWnIZHRif4

Beautiful Boy Offical Music Video – Coleenmcmahon - http://youtu.be/xoDykcFbs34

Dobby Is Free – Shep689 - http://youtu.be/JMWqrsMOkAU

Something from work

I had an incredible experience at work. All I want to say is that I am glad that there are parents who love their gay children. I was picked to hear this kid's story. No idea why, but man it was great.

What would you do? Family and Dating

Allow me to preface this post by saying that I am by no means racist. Racism however seems to have a place even here in my family. I won't say where the racism exists within my family but it's there. I don't believe in racism. In fact, I hate it. I despise it. I am not even sure how to say this, so be patient and understanding with me. It's not clear what races are frowned down upon but it is clear that those of African descent are not smiled upon at all. I will not subject any boyfriend or friend to their actions or their words. My problem is do I strive to date a guy who might be perfect for me and walk away from those relatives who are racist or do I find someone who is compatible with my family. Discussion about this subject with family has actually led to threats of violence to me and potential boyfriends. Despite their attitudes, I love my family. This is just something that has been bugging me. On that violence issue, he might have been joking I'm not sure.

Grindr

So Grinder has been very interesting, and it has helped raise a question in my mind. Does age matter in the gay community? Haha! I kind of made a funny there. Course it matters! Most young gays (legal guys ) don't want someone much older than 30 and I think it works the opposite for older guys. We want to have something in common with the guys we date. Now maybe it works differently if all we are looking is sex, maybe then age doesn't matter. On Grindr, I've had 20 years old contact me. I'm not like most guys so when I say that I don't do hookups or that I only want friends I mean it. So now I have a question for you? Is it wrong for a 40 year old or older to date someone who is 20 years younger???